LDR (long distance relationship)

What is wrong with LDR? What makes it work and what destroys it? Why are people so afraid to go through with it?

What makes LDR so tough is actually a matter of TRUST, the presence of mind of each party and also the ability to control one's emotion.

There is no much difference having a LDR and having a normal relationship, the difference is just location and time. Even though you are not having a long distance relationship, there is still a chance for your relationship to fall apart.. So what is the formulae to have a strong lasting relationship?

It is hard to believe and it is hard to implement, but what is going inside our mind may or maynot be the truth that is happening in reality.. Someone taught me that being in a relationship is all about TRUST, COMMUNICATION, FORGIVING and PATIENCE.. These factors are important especially if you are in a LDR..

Reading and understanding them is easy, but when told to implement them it is not that simple. There are other factors that might prevent you from being forgiving or thoughts that stop you from trusting or feelings that make you impatience..

It's alright.. You'll get there just one by one and a step at a time.. If you truly understand the meaning of each of the words, it'll help you not only in your love life but your other necessities as well..

Until now, i'm still looking for my answer.. Let's look together and never give up on love.. :)

Our love

Every single soul is unique in their own ways. I have never liked to be compared to and I promised myself I won't do that to my kids in future. But what I didn't realise is, those words actually affected me in many ways.. I have never really looked at myself and not comparing it with anyone. I have always been comparing my life, my study, my work and even my love life.. What I didn't realise is, that my life is unique by itself.. I don't have to be anyone to be success, to be respected or to be loved..

Recently I had come across many couples, married and still in relationship. And I wonder will I ever get that happily ever after with my own prince? They were all so romantic and so loving.. But I didn't know how long that happiness will last or whether they have faced worst of the worst..

Lately I have my own issues as well,, with trust, fears and desires.. I have not handled any of them well.. But at least I know that someone will be sent to me to make me realise that all that is just to make me understand more and get more mature..

I have always wanted a fairytale relationship, where my prince will recite a poem in the morning and carry me to bed at night.. Or probably just bringing breakfast in the morning and kissing me goodnight.. In reality, there are guys like that, those romantic and loving guys.. But my reality, no.. My boyfriend may not be the guy of my dreams or what i hoped for.. But he made it clear that for what is worth.. We love each other..

Our love is different from other couples and we handle things differently.. But we know in our own heart how much our love for each other are and that we have always been happy despite all the problems we've been through.. We have fought out battles till this far and we are not going to just give up like that.. The least is that this relationship was not built on lies or disguise.. We come clean since the first we met, showing our own self, not afraid to lose to fake identity.. Even though if we were just happy for the first two months of our relationship, at least that was worth it coz it was from us and not from "us" to just get the other person to fall in love..

*well, we are still happy right now even when we are hundred thousands of kilometres away from each other..

I fell in love with this person because he was amazingly tricky and cunning and challenging.. He played the reverse psychology thingy on me.. But yet again he did knock on my door and i answered it.. Before I answered, I told myself that I will fight for this relationship no matter what and he will be the last guy for me.. If he wasn't meant to be the one for me, let him disappear before me.. But I was relieved because when I answered the door, there he was waiting to take me by the hand and gave me my happiness..

What matters is the first step of the journey.. Coz it will be essential to remind you when your road are tough..