Fear..

Fear is in everyone's life. It does't matter if you are eve or you are fifty. Everyone has their own fear. Fear of being lied to, Fear of being cheated on, Fear on losing someone, Fear of losing yourself, Fear of death and Fear of living. We never know what the future holds for us, we can never know when the world will end and all our lives are resurrected into a different world. However, we know what happens this moment in our life, and we just need to live life this instant. Human beings never get away with fear. Many people said that they might have overcome fear but we never really look deep into ourself and really reflect what is our greatest fear. I have always believed that my greatest fear is death, but there might be other factor that I'm afraid of. Once when I was just sitting and reflecting on myself and I realised that the thing I fear the most is being alone. It doesn't matter in what context but I know that I would like to always have someone beside me, consciously or unconsciously. I never liked being left alone by anyone. All through my life there are other fears as well.. Fear of being caught after lying, fear of being punished after a fault is done, fear of losing someone you really love and fear of never finding happiness in life anymore. My life has never been easy on me, there are many things that had happened in my life as a child, a teenager and now a young adult. I'm still in search of answer on how to eliminate fear in life, it may be hard but its not impossible.. :D For the mean time, we just need to face our fears..

TRUST?

Is TRUST an issue in every relationship? Why does it have to be an issue? Is there a relationship out there that does not have trust issue? Most relationship I came across has a trust issue, it doesn't matter if the couple are married, just started the relationship or already in one for some time. Although many people might deny that trust could be the main reason that relationship don't work, but it sure is a big factor. Trust doesn't only mean about "saying" the truth, there are many other meaning to TRUST someone. Many personal experience had led me to the state that I can't really trust anyone in life. Truth hurts but living in a world that you can't trust anyone hurts more. There are many occasion in my life that have put me down. When I start trusting someone, one or the other way, someone will get hurt because of that trust. For instance, a husband who could just roam around the world sleeping with prostitutes and telling his wife he got some meeting or out for a job; or a friend who is really in a mess and shares her problem with who she thinks are her best friend and got backstabbed; or even a daughter who just needs support and love from her parents but couldn't get them because they were so busy with their own problem and issues. In each and every scenario here there is a trust issue. As a husband, there are so many responsibility to fulfil. Having to work more than everyone else just to make sure that the family gets something to eat. The pressure that is in them cannot be expressed or felt by anyone but themselves. As a wife, shouldn't we be more caring about them? Instead of accusing them all the time, why don't we put ourselves in their shoes? What if all the statements weren't true? What if they did go out there and had a meeting? Aren't we just assuming things which could end the relationships we had built for so long? Let's say its true that he was sleeping with a prostitute and having fun instead of working, do you know what really happened? What is the cause? Is it because he was given extra pressure of you not trusting him enough, which helps him to do those things that could have been prevented. Think about it.. We are all human after all. We all have friends to share things that we might think its hard to talk about them to our parents. But what are the odds that your friends backstabbed you? You told her your biggest secret and she just blabs it out to the whole school just because she got the biggest news in school. Have you ever meet those kind of people? I sure do know a few. And because of them, you don't feel comfortable telling anyone about your secret anymore. You keep it to yourself, hide it from the world and fall deeper into your own sorrow. There are still people out there you can trust and are there to help you get out of your sorrow. Being a parents could be the hardest thing to do. Bringing into the world a new life, having the need to protect them and to teach them so that they'll grow up to a good person, full of love and knows responsibility. We can never be sure of how our children grow up to be but one thing we know that they are human and they do make mistakes. It could be really big that bring the family shame or it could just be a small matter. That doesn't matter because when your baby makes those mistakes, all they want is just your care and your support. Scolding them or hitting them will not teach them anything. You would need to hold their hand and make them experience so that they would know. When you lose your faith and trust in them, they lost their faith too. You can't really prevent them from not repeating your mistakes, they have their own way and they need to learn from it themselves. There are many other problem than this that took my "trust" away from me. It has always been an issue with me and I have never really dare to fall into the pit and see the truth. The world is a place where everything is of balance. You can't really treat everyone the same way. My beliefs have blinded me from the world of reality. What if there are husbands out there really working their ass off to feed their family? What if there are friends out there who are real and have always stayed by your side through the ups and downs of your dramatic life? What if there are parents out there who truly stay by your side and support you from deep inside their heart? You wouldn't know how other really feel or who they really are. If you want to know, the first step would be releasing the fear of being hurt and start to TRUST.